When I was a little girl I had tons of stuffed animals-in the ballpark of 30 adorable furry friends. When I would sleep with one of them, I felt horribly guilty that the other’s feelings would be hurt. So I developed a system. I would alternate. Everyday a new stuffed animal. If I noticed one of my cabbage patch kids was feeling sad, I would just explain that their turn was coming and hoped they wouldn’t be too upset with me.
I had a hard time sleeping.
This behavior of pleasing everyone continued through childhood. I frequently played peacemaker at home and loving friend at school. In early adulthood, I began to do self-work and soul searching. I realized that in so many ways I was looking to please everyone in my life. What did I want? What did I feel? I had no time to think about that, I was too busy trying to make him happy and her too.
My choices and my words were formed with other’s expectations in mind. I lived my life to make others happy and proud. This was maybe the biggest realization of my early self-work.
When I came to terms with this pattern in me, I had the opportunity to make a new choice. I started to ask myself questions like:
- Am I sleeping with him because I WANT to or because I don’t want to upset him?
- Am I saying this/doing this because I don’t want to disappoint anyone?
- Am I taking this job so dad will be proud of me?
These and many other questions were the beginning of my now rebellious ways.
I meet many young adults in my work here at The Wild Woman Project and at Lucid Body. Pleasing is an epidemic among my students. We must ask ourselves the generic actor question in all matters: What is my motivation?
So let’s get real clear here:
WILD WOMAN Check-in
Where in my life am I doing something solely to please another?
Do I really want to continue doing it?
Only you know the answer. The key, really, is asking the question.
Your Pleaser in Recovery;)
C
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Chris Maddox is the founder of The Wild Woman Project where she teaches women how to utilize the gifts of the Wild Woman Archetype in their everyday lives & how to lead women’s circles in their local communities. She is the organizer & facilitator of the beloved annual WILD WOMAN FEST, a women’s retreat-festival hybrid which fosters a deep connection to nature, a direct experience of the divine feminine & profound spiritual sisterhood among the women in attendance.
An ever student of the great mysteries of existence and nature itself, Chris believes women are holding innate gifts & tools that society at large needs – now more than ever. She is committed to helping women remember their special magic and to bring it forward into every corner of their lives, for the greater good of the planet.
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