Create Space
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Carve out some alone time (doing this in Nature is always extra sweet)
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Tune into your breath and begin to move your focus into your heart
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Bring to mind one important relationship in your life (this can be your relationship with yourself, a family member, a friend, or a lover)
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Spend a moment seeing them in your mind’s eye
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Notice how your body may change, how your breath may change
Inquire
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How does this relationship make me feel? How do I feel about this person? How do I feel about myself when I am with this person?
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What do I love about this relationship? What about this relationship makes us both feel joyful, expansive, and just plain GOOD?
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What is challenging about this relationship? Do we continue to struggle over the same issue over and over again? Do I have a “button” in this relationship that when it is pressed, I may not like how I behave?
Dig Deeper
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Is there a subtle or a major “retuning” that needs to happen in this relationship?
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Perhaps the repetitive issue needs to be addressed?
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Perhaps we can “retune” an aspect of the way we treat one another so we may both feel even better in this relationship?
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Perhaps we can identify what and why we love being in this relationship and do MORE of that?
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Perhaps we are holding onto expectations of who we are (and who one another is) that we have outgrown and are not serving us?
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Is there resentment I am holding from a past action that is tainting our current relationship? What needs to be done in order for me to move past that feeling?
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Is there something that needs to be expressed that I am withholding? How can I find the right time and manner of sharing this?
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Is there something I long for in this relationship that I have not expressed? Why?
Take inspired action
- Once you are clear on the inspired action you feel called to take, it may serve you to craft or collect an object from Nature to remind you of this intention and place it in a spot you can’t ignore. An Altar, a car, or a bathroom are my favorite places. Doing this is a helpful way to keep your intention “IN sight, IN mind”.
- If you feel called, maybe share some of these questions with the other person in this Relationship with you. Invite them to contemplate alongside you. Setting a timer, lighting a candle, and eye gazing with one another is a helpful activity to get in tune with one another before diving deep together. If you choose to communicate your discoveries it’s always important to remember to listen and speak from the heart. Compassion and kindness are key.
A closing thought
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Oh my goodness this is so rich and helpful Amanda.
I can SO use this deep contemplation during this deep dive into the waning Moon time. I have two actions I would like to work on.
I have a dear friend who I have know for many years. We used to be very close and I feel we’ve moved into the ‘family friend zone’ over the last couple of years and don’t actually know how it happened. She loves all my family and I guess I miss our one in one time. I need to address this with her but feel rather silly making a big thing out of it.
I also find when challenges come up with my partner and children I have no issues with addressing them freely but don’t have the same comfort level when it comes to my girlfriends. I would like to like to work toward honing some new skills in this area of my relationships
Any advice is welcome.
Hi Lynne! Thank you so much for sharing that insight! I completely understand that feeling of missing closeness with a friend. I also understand the difference in communicating with your family vs. your friends. For me, I find it easier to communicate with my family because I know they can’t escape me as easily (haha!), but chances are if we have cultivated meaningful relationships with our friends- they won’t leave us either.
Just last month I actually had a friend I really love tell me “I care about you so much and recently I’ve been unhappy with how infrequent our communication has been. I know both of us have been slipping, but I miss you and I don’t want it to be like that any longer. How do you feel?”. I felt so honored that she trusted me enough to be straight with me, and I was feeling exactly what she was feeling. So, we vowed to both initiate more contact.
In my experience, when you lead with love in those conversations it’s usually met with great openness. If it’s hard to start the conversation, maybe just saying something simple like “I love you and I miss our alone time. Would you like to get coffee alone together this weekend?”. It could be quite possible she is feeling the same way as you, but also not wanting to make it a “big deal”. Or maybe she’s simply assumed you’re too busy and therefore hasn’t reached out?
Let us know how it goes! Proud of you for stepping outside your comfort zone a little. You got this. <3