YOUR TURN
Let’s inspire one another! In the comments here, please share:
A.What is a Value you have in close relationships?
B.What does that value look/feel like in action?
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My values are freedom, respect, faith, growth, sensuality, power, tenderness, support, compassion, depth, attractive, expansion, vulnerability, gratitude; above all the little things in life and noticing those in a day and a willingness to share the love deepest in the core of the heart. My values in action this week has looked like; respect and attractiveness, and when I say attractiveness I am not talking about physical appearance, I am relating to the form of energy one is putting off. I realized that my energy was invading the space my day dreaming and not first asking permission to be looking into anothers energy field without a heads up, which relates to respect, similar to what Chris was saying I already intuitively know because I have had more time to look into the other person before they have but then it drives me spiraling in circles in a matter of minutes do to the responsibility of the other person. This is not my responsibility I can not do the work for you even though energetically I see what is happening behind the scenes, I am just not coming to honor my gifts and abilities but before it was a blurred line of acceptance to believe this was really me seeing a piece of the truth. I came to a place in independence again to step back and say ok this is me and I am attracting the energy I am putting out instead of chasing the energy I want in fear that all will be lost if I don’t cling to certainty of knowing. I felt the wedge being driven through disrespect for their own power, and it has only been a few days but damn do I feel empowered that I am of equal value and open to receive the type of attraction I am consciously choosing to embody.
“Spread the light. be the lighthouse”
Thanks for sharing a little of your inner process, Samantha ♥️ So happy you are feeling empowered.
My thoughts aren’t necessarily just on my values and actions within that but also on my values inlining with those personal relationships and what that looks like and where am I at or how to move through a relationship if values are not inline.
I think about my values and actions taken to bring those values into my personal relationships. Part of those values are also where I stand in it when expecting those values to be shared. Because if those are my values then I feel strongly of them right. I feel they are important for myself to receive as well.
What if my values are not inlined with the values of they other person. I would like to respect the other persons individual thought and feeling in what is important to them. I know there would be a sense of need not being met and feeling of possible loss, frustration or sadness inside.
I just feel if its something I feel so strongly about, part of that is the respect for myself within it and I want to recieve it back. I feel line I am not being valued, heard or respected if I’m not getting that back in return.
Should I get it back in return? Is it wrong for me to expect my values to be mirrored back. Or is it just the defining moment when you see the relationship tip to one side more on the scale. I want to give space and respect with each individual personal relationship and honor thier values. But how do I do that if I dont feel valued in how I would perceive it.
Let me know your thoughts!!!
Thank you
Hi Sara,
Thank you for sharing your thought process and questions with us. I think what you are asking here is really important.
You wrote: “Is it wrong for me to expect my values to be mirrored back?”
Like you expressed, identifying a personal value in relationships makes clear that particular value is really important to you. So it stands to reason that not only would you embody the value, but it would be a shared value within your closest 1-on-1 relationships (the area we are focusing on in this conversation and through the moon cycle).
Something to be aware of is that often people express the same value in a totally different way. Like in my example of tenderness. I notice that one of the ways I show tenderness to my best friends is by really caring about their dreams and goals and encouraging or helping them achieve them. One expresses her tenderness by verbally expressing her love and celebration of me & another one expresses by being very generous in offering me emotional support and guidance when I am having a hard time. We are all express tenderness in a different way. So it is important to be aware that everyone is different and will likely express similar values in a different way.
With that being said, these are the relationships that we really choose: partners in business & love, best friends, and collaborators. These kinds of relationships – our very dearest – are hopefully in a place where we can communicate and discuss our values and desires so that you both have a shared understanding on what is important to the other.
Only you know the specifics of your situation & the answer to your question, but I hope sharing some of my thoughts on this is helpful 💓
Lots love,
C
Support is important. Life is difficult enough as it is, when someone can help carry the load it brings a little bit of expansiveness into you. In real time support looks like, I’ll take of this for you today because I see how busy and overwhelmed you are. And it goes both ways. More profoundly it can be about sometimes letting your ego dissolve so as to put yourself in the genuine position to serve the needs of another. Both in the relationship, any type of relationship should do this for each other.
I feel you on this, JoAnna. Thanks for sharing your thoughtful response ♥️
🎶 “I get by with a little help from my friends” 🎶
Bingo, Chris! So much of what you said struck home. I’m at a place in my life that’s very comfortable for me and that doesn’t involve a significant human in my life. My primary relationship (that’s ongoing every day) is with my canine companion, Hecate. I remember my therapist suggesting once that I adore my relationship with Hecate so much because she gives me unconditional love. I wasn’t sure at the time why what she said didn’t ring true. As I sat with the idea, I realized that I adore this relationship because it’s a vehicle for me to embody my own potential for unconditional love. Wow! At the end of WWF, during your closing words to us, you emphasized tenderness. That was a huge takeaway for me. My biggest buzz relationship-wise is when I feel myself reacting to others with a tender heart. (Like the Grinch, haha)
Patience: understanding/getting better at patience is my new intention. I have bottomless patience for my students and Hecate, a lot of patience for my friends, but in a human love relationship, my patience is sorely tried. So intriguing. Working on it…