“One advantage of talking to yourself is that you know at least somebody’s listening.”
-Franklin P. Jones
Don’t front, I know you talk to yourself.
You whisper quietly as you pass a mirror.
You tell yourself (out loud) what to do next.
I ask you: What are you saying? HOW are you saying it? In what tone?
In my life I have really run the gamut. I have been uber-sweet and loving to myself and other times I have been down right abusive.
Our words are directly connected to our thoughts and it is our thoughts that create our reality.
Hence if I speak to myself in a disrespectful tone and use language that is hurtful, I am actively creating pain. Yikes.
I’ve been doing this exercise recently, one that Louis Hayes recommends, which is essentially mindfully and lovingly talking to myself. To clarify: That is I look at myself in the eyes, in the mirror and say a loving phrase out loud. It may sound a little loca but this can be a pretty deep exercise.
I must admit that even I get a little cynical l about this touchy feely stuff, but I have found it to be powerful and deep practice.
I have been saying, “Christina Nichole Maddox, everything you need to create the life or your WILDest dreams is within you.”
This practice is deepening my relationship to myself, the universe and has immediate positive effects on my mood and body. I look into the eyes of that extraordinary woman in the mirror and speak to her as I do my dearest friends.
Sometimes we laugh. Sometimes tears are shed. And we always leave feeling better.
Check yo’ self:
Wild Woman Check in #13
Take a deep breathe and ask yourself, “What do I most need to hear?”
Look in the mirror and say it.
How did that feel?
Will you dare to talk to yourself every day this week. Become besties with that radiant person in the mirror.
Loving yourself opens the floodgates of wonderfulness.
Please share your experience in the comments section. Was this challenging? Were you surprised at how it felt? We learn from each other. Let us know!
With incredible love,
Chris Maddox
p.s- You you have a WILD woman or man who could use a little self love or a new way to talk to themselves? Share on the interwebs!
On the Horizon
"The Circle Leader Training Program at The Wild Woman Project was one of the most transformative and healing experiences of my life. I have received many tools, resources, support, and connections that I will carry on with me forever." ~ Hannah Devin, Graduate
Wild Woman Fest returns…
Join us for the 10th Annual Wild Woman Fest, August 19-23rd, 2026.
On a beautiful & sacred land in the Blue Ridge Mountains, in Asheville North Carolina.
Get ready: FEST FRIDAY, when tickets go on sale, is May 8th
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We have Wild Woman Project-trained Circle facilitators is 27 countries, and 44 out of the 50 United States.
Calling wild-hearted women, in and around the Blue Ridge Mountains of Asheville ~ let’s stir up some sisterhood magic in 2026.
Monthly on Sunday afternoons, 3-5pm, near the Full Moon at The Well in West Asheville.
Join us for an hour-long New Moon Meditation Adventure on April 17th.
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Using a dynamic meditation journey, we will tune into the New Moon, to your own Inner Guidance, synced up with wild-hearted women from around the world. This offering will include music, storytelling, meditation, journaling prompts & intention-setting.
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Chris Maddox is the founder of The Wild Woman Project where she teaches women how to utilize the gifts of the Wild Woman Archetype in their everyday lives & how to lead women’s circles in their local communities. She is the organizer & facilitator of the beloved annual WILD WOMAN FEST, a women’s retreat-festival hybrid which fosters a deep connection to nature, a direct experience of the divine feminine & profound spiritual sisterhood among the women in attendance.
An ever student of the great mysteries of existence and nature itself, Chris believes women are holding innate gifts & tools that society at large needs – now more than ever. She is committed to helping women remember their special magic and to bring it forward into every corner of their lives, for the greater good of the planet.
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